Shouldn't speak so soon...

DH did some investigating last night about this potential job and the training, which would be in South Carolina--it's a federal position, btw. Apparently some of the training is pretty intense and we aren't sure if he'll be able to do it physically. Of course, this made him feel like crap and he's like "what else?" He's right--hasn't he been through enough already? First the accident, then the treatment at his last job, then the layoff? Doesn't he EVER get a break? He was also worried that if he gets interviewed by the state, for a similar type of job, it'll be the same case with the physical stuff. He wasn't sure if he should call the fed office and take himself out, or say nothing until it was imperative. He was SO ready to give up last night--talking about going to law school, back to get his teaching credentials, worrying that he'd be working at some factory job, with a masters.

So he called an old professor from grad school who works for the state division of the field that DH wants to work in, and a friend who also sort of works in the field and both of them said it shouldn't be a problem. The prof guy was like "why is this set up so tough?" He also relayed to DH that the state doesn't require this same type of stuff as the feds, so DH was feeling better...

THEN, one of the interviewers called this morning to tell DH to call at a certain time on the 12th. Wow. He felt a little better. I said to him that you never know...this fed website that you found might have "umbrella" rules and maybe not all of the jobs under the department are that strict. Plus, even though it's a fed job, they operate differently depending on the state. For instance, this position requires a firearm in some states--but not ours. Maybe it's the same for the training? One thing DH pointed out was "why didn't they state anything about the physical requirements in the job ad?" So maybe it's NOT as strenuous as that info lead us to believe?

He is feeling better now, but sheesh, it was tense last night. Poor guy. I just kept saying that I was sorry, but that didn't seem to help. Sometimes men need to TALK MORE and say what's on their minds and not expect their wives/girlfriends to guess what they want to hear from them! Yes, he did get a little upset with me, but we later talked--he wanted me to be honest about what I thought and not hide things, and I didn't want to be TOO honest for fear it might upset him. I ended up telling him I was sad about this info, angry at the job ad for not being upfront about this, just mad about his bad luck...so that was good, we got it all out there.